Joined: Jan 5, 2010 Messages: 8,415 Likes Received: 0.  When you set up for this conversation, try to lay out all of the possible outcomes and how you will handle them so she can know what to expect ahead of time. Here's what we're doing now and it works as long as we remember to do it - She picks out her school clothes the day before and understands that there is no switching around unless the weather unexpectedly changes (shorts to leggings or similar.) Talk to her while you do these things, but at the same time, point her towards the clock and say 'we need to both be ready by 8" or whatever your deadline is.  It also has the benefit of helping them know how whether or not it's a school day. She won't do it. Then she can illustrate it on her own.  It's not going to be an issue forever.  In the morning I can grab the days outfit and take it to them to put on or ask if they want to come get dressed with me. In fact, most paediatricians will worry if a 2-year-old doesn't give you any guff about decisions. My wife and her mother were killed in a car accident nearly 3 years ago, which was obviously devastating for both my little girl and me. sw. Has she been able to dress herself in the past?  Can she actually do it completely on her own?  Sounds like she may be some experiencing some difficulties that could be helped by an occupational therapist or a psychologist.  At the very least, you might try a new approach and help her until the activity becomes less "loaded" and then you can both move on to something new! We are currently over Christmas break, and the lack of routine, seems to have made things worse for her. Then everyday after school, take 15 minutes to let her dictate what the best thing about her day was.  A more direct route would be that she needs to be dress by leaving time or she goes to school in her pjs. We finally decided that we weren't going to … A regular bedtime routine and plenty of daytime physical activity can often help your 7-year-old get the 9 to 11 hours of sleep that the National Sleep Foundation suggests for her age. Please whitelist our site to get all the best deals and offers from our partners. I put out their stuff the night before and it literally takes 2 mins. Toddler Diapering - Ending the Changing Wars, Caring for Your Baby and Young Child, 6th Edition: Birth to Age 5, reviewed by our medical review board and team of experts. We are having a nightmare problem with my daughter's sleep habits. Can't leave house b/c 3 y.o. I refuse to "help" her and tell her she is a big girl and can do it herself. Pick your battles - this is not worth it first thing in the morning before she's separated from you all day.  Each week, her girls put in their outfits for each day of the week. She was a top student who understood concepts with ease so I was confused. Maybe she wants the attention. my son just started this terrible battle for getting dressed. Seven-Year-Old Won't Go To Sleep. Parents, teachers, and other adults can help by offering frequent encouragement and helping a child focus on what they might … But there's a reason why your independent preschooler puts up such a fight. Whether it's a shirt or a diaper, getting dressed … Get more help – If you try all of the above steps and can’t seem to get past the daily battle about what clothes your child is going to wear, ... Our 10 year old son just hates wearing winter uniform to school. I work four days a week and my mother or my MIL have him while I'm at work (2 full days and 2 half days). then a reminder to hurry up and change. grandson may not act like a 20 year old, he is an adult. 19 Month Old Won't Get Dressed in the Morning. I have a 5 1/2 year old girl, who will not get dressed in the mornings, this proves very difficult on school mornings.   Let her know you've already seen big progress and know she's on the path to not needing you in her room to help her dress. You set limits and enforce them.  Only you know if this is something that needs to be 'fixed" now and how. A 7-year-old girl dressed in a red and black costume was shot and seriously wounded across the street from the restaurant by a gunman aiming at a … MY daughter is 8, and getting dressed is such a struggle for her. That is one battle I'm not willing to have in the morning. Dear Rachel, My seven year-old son won't eat. The result is frustration, often a precursor to — you guessed it — a meltdown. It shouldn't matter what he likes to wear and how he expresses himself. 7 year old girl refuses to get herself dressed. I think you're doing the right thing, but could take the argument out of it. He's as thin as a stick and the only thing that I can get him to eat is spaghetti. It's become all consuming,funny thing is ,he'll get dressed for my husband on the weekend with no problem. If she has trouble finding something, I'll give her two or three clothing options and let her know that is all I can do to help her.  If all goes well, their could be a brief "fun time together"- you would have to decide what this might be, something she likes a lot and would want to get with you (say for about 5-10 minutes), before you go to the car. Related links. I'm at my wits end with my 7 year olds refusal to get dressed in the morning. When they had their first pajama party in kindergarten, I bought them real pajamas for the first time. PARENT QUESTION: I need to get my 7 year old son to listen.It’s a big issue at home and at school. She says she needs "help". Yes, they went to school with wrinkled clothes, but it eliminated the power struggle and bought us all so much peace in the mornings. Maybe she is picking a power struggle with you (mine likes to do that when he's feeling powerless). Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Berkeley Parents Network, based in Berkeley, California, is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit network for parents in the San Francisco Bay Area. Page 2.  Maybe without having to think about what to wear, she will be more open to putting on her clothes if they are already picked out. Shared Play Technique: If you’re sick of hearing the same old squabbles between your kids, encourage a bit of teamwork with the Shared Play Technique .  Hopefully, some of the responses are helpful in resolving this for you in the near future. For the past year, getting dressed has been a major issue with her, and lately it's totally out of control. Pick out the outfit the night before, make sure she chooses it or at least agrees to it. Something cozy and fun. Health information on this site is based on peer-reviewed medical journals and highly respected health organizations and institutions including ACOG (American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists), CDC (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention) and AAP (American Academy of Pediatrics), as well as the What to Expect books by Heidi Murkoff. In the morning, set your alarm for 10 minutes earlier to leave more time for getting dressed.  Then she is in control and gets to choose what kind of morning she would like.Â. With my three year old we have a little race to see how quickly he can get dressed. Updated on October 27, 2010 S.C. asks from Naugatuck, CT on October 24, 2010 9 answers. I, especially when I'm trying to do other things, have gotten very annoyed in the past. Me getting angry never helped. In fact, needing special attention from you may be just what she needs before the STRESS of school and separation. If you had boys as I do, you'd realize that this is SUPER common until much later ages. Ask her what is difficult for her about dressing.  if this has been an ongoing behavior there are several approaches to consider. My 6 year old has had the same issues. Keep your kid's developmental milestones in mind: Your 18-month-old may be able to help undress herself, but you shouldn't expect your kid to be able to get dressed … The kind of pushback a 2-year-old gives you — “I won’t get dressed, I won’t eat that, I won’t walk to the car” — serves the developmental purpose of helping her become her own person. Until then, try these tips to ease those wardrobe workouts. My two year old son is making my mornings a nightmare and I am at the end of myself trying to get it sorted.  My kids (5 and 2) layout their clothes on Sunday for the week (I do it for the 2 yr old) and can only change if we got the weather wrong or forgot an activity and the outfit isn't appropriate.  A friend of mine bought a hanging shelf made out of material. I just retired this year, so I'm still up to date with these requirements and I feel they are overwhelming to some children. Trying to get a toddler to stand still for anything — much less putting on clothes or diapers — is difficult enough, but add a young child's need for control and you've got a recipe for dressing disaster. She won't do it.  It changes the battle from once a day to once a week. Maybe going back to school is creating worries or she doesn't like making choices in general or is afraid of doing the wrong thing. I can't get her to ballet because she does not like her leotard. She is a very well mannered child at home and school except for this issue. Active 7 months ago. Q: My 2 1/2-year-old daughter has been fighting with both my husband and me about getting dressed or putting her coat on. Use of this site is subject to our terms of use and privacy policy. ANSWER: The bottom line here is that kids don’t feel like they have to bother listening when they get so many chances!It’s almost like the “One, two, three” counting that to me teaches kids, “Ignore them on one, ignore them on two and maybe start moving when they get to three!”  One day of going in her pjs should encourage her to not do that again. I don't want to be negative, but the government has placed so many demands on very young children in terms of testing and curriculum that it is a completely different experience than you or I had. "  This is a time to really listen.  Often kids have fears, or they simply can't focus well on their own and get distracted or go into fantasy world.  See if you can come up with something that could work for both of you.  Maybe she needs to pick out her outfit the night before?  Maybe she wants to bring her clothes into your room, so you can both get dressed, or in the kitchen while you get lunch ready?  Maybe she can help you pack the lunch if you stay with her for a bit to help her to get dressed?  You are looking for win-win situations that take both of your needs into account.  Sometimes kids then need reminders the night before.  Remember what we agreed on?  And you go through the scenario.  Then you try it out, and see if the new plan works, or if it needs adjusting or redesigning.  Anything that goes better, make sure you mention it, and how much you appreciate her help.  Good luck!  Parenting is hard work! Hello BPN, I'm at my wits end with my 7 year olds refusal to get dressed in the morning. Or at least picking out the outfit the night before, laying it out ready to go? Sometimes i get a t-shirt out of his drawer and he's like i don't wanna wear that but when i say see how quickly you can get into it for mummy he sees it as a game and this distracts him from what he was moaning about in the first place. Dd1 is 2.7and a total nightmare to get dressed.  Generally, make it more of a "you and me against the clock" situation than "me against you" problem.  Can you tell her, I would love to help you but we have to do it in 10 minutes and then I need you you to help me get dressed too? My 5 yo daughter often also wanted me to "help" her get dressed and I also hated this.  That way, her girls went to their cubby for the day and didn't have to think about what to wear. Have you tried having her lay out her clothes the night before and doing it together? So my 10 year old girl does something similar in the morning. He is now on Focalin 5 mg in the morning.  Each child is different and has different needs. We have to be up by 7 … Maybe I should just help??? That means when your child says, "I don't waaant to get dressed," and your first thought is, "I DON'T CARE! Discussion in 'Pregnancy - Second Trimester' started by tommyg, Nov 7, 2010. tommyg Mum to Smurf & TTC. For the past year, getting dressed has been a major issue with her, and lately it's totally out of control. 2.7 year old won't get dressed (33 Posts) Add message | Report. As far as I can tell it's a cry for "assistance" when the world seems full of pressure.  I am sure by the time she is in the next grade she will dress herself and if not, you can choose a more direct route (as mentioned above). By Bill Corbett, Neighbor Mar 14, 2013 7:22 p … Go with her to Target or whatnot and choose a notebook together. 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